Going to college is stressful—for parents and students. The following are the lessons my parents and I share with you that we have learned through fall semester, 2017– June 2018 at UNC-Chapel Hill and at home.
FOR MOM AND DAD:
1. YOUR DAYS OF PARENTING ARE NOT OVER
There is a transition when your child enters college. Your parenting just has to shift with that transition. As independent as college students are, they still need you—to help them set financial budgets, to tell them about health insurance and car insurance, to call and catch up every now and then.
There is also a transition when your child comes home from college. Your child has been living on his/her own for almost a year. He/she has learned to become more mature and independent. You must allow some of that independence and maturity to reveal itself now.
2. THEY WILL BE FINE
College is an exciting time! While it can be easy to worry about children being truly independent and responsible for themselves for the first time, they are in no danger. They are paving their own path and becoming their own people—one mistake at a time.
1. YOU DON’T NEED IT ALL
When I packed for fall semester my freshman year of college, I thought I needed it all: a large meal plan, my entire wardrobe, a notebook for each class. You name it. I had it. I found that I didn’t use my entire meal plan, I didn’t wear half of the clothes I brought, and pretty much all of my classes preferred we use laptops to submit assignments and take notes. Less is more. You don’t need it all.
2. YOUR FRIEND GROUP WILL CHANGE
Who you hang out with will change simply because you will change. College is a time for you to mature and grow as an individual. You may find that you’ve grown out of the people you grew up with.
Who you hang out with is also easy to change because it’s easier to find new friends in college. There is what feels a million people at your school. If you don’t like your current friend group because they’re too mean or they aren’t interested in what you’re interested in, there are new people everywhere you turn that you can make friends with.
3. COLLEGE IS FUN
While, yes, the ultimate goal of college is to study, you should allow yourself time to enjoy the college experience. There’s so much more to learn about than what comes from your books. Be social and don’t be afraid to give up an hour of study time to enjoy the campus life.
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