The Mommy Diaries: Grandparents

My grandma, Betty Carter, lived with my family from the time I was four, until she died when I was 14. I was very fortunate to have her grow up with me in my home, and she has had a tremendous impact on my life. At night, I would sneak into her room, crawl into her lap, and she would tell me stories and let me take sips of her Coca-Cola.

My other grandmother, Mary Rosser, lived less than an hour away. She was just as nurturing. I will always remember her delicious desserts, like blueberry pecan crumble and black walnut cake at Christmas. I will never forget the way she rubbed my back until I fell asleep during Grandma Sleepovers, and fishing with a cane pole in the pond on her farm.

Though I didn’t get the opportunity to know my grandfathers, I know their spirit was shared with me through my grandmothers. I treasure the relationships I had with my grandparents dearly—I still do. I will always carry the wisdom, love and joy they imparted to me.

When I see my own son, Lucas, with his grandparents, the immense love and laughter they exchange, it makes my heart glow. I am reminded of my own grandparents and how special that relationship is.

Lucas’s grandparents completely adore him. They are always thrilled to see him, love him, spoil him rotten and give him their undivided attention. In addition to singing him songs, acting goofy and snuggling him tight, they exchange much conversation and wisdom with our baby son.

For parents, the grandparent relationship should not be taken for granted. Not only can grandparents help support and care for your child, giving you a much-needed break at times, but the bond they share is very special. There is just a unique connection between grandparent and child that can’t be replicated. Because grandparents usually have more unclaimed time and energy to devote to grandchildren’s lives, this relationship continues to be nourished over time.

Maybe it’s that one-step removal from parents, and the fact that grandparents may not adhere to the same disciplinary structure as Mom and Dad (like my Dad who has already slipped Lucas ice cream at times), but many grandparents enjoy spoiling their grandchildren. Not only do they spoil them with attention, toys and love, but with the wisdom that comes with time and age

This past Thanksgiving, I really took time to step back and watch Lucas and his grandparents interact. As they clapped and “Ahhed” at his new tricks and skills, hugged him close and giggled in delight, I felt grateful—so grateful for the love and joy Lucas has brought us and them. I feel so thankful that Lucas has these exceptional people, his grandparents, in his life. They will be there to guide him, love him, impart wisdom and spoil him a bit, and, of course, remind his parents (us) of the mischief we used to get into.

Dear Baby Lucas,

You are nearly 10 months old now. I can’t believe it. You are really crawling and scooting everywhere these days. It seems like you find some new discovery each hour to get into. Dad and I are working hard to keep up with you.

I also notice you memory has grown much longer. I can’t distract you so easily. If you want to get into something your tenacious spirit is relentless. You keep trying and trying.

During this season of Thanksgiving, my heart swells again with the deep gratitude I feel to have been blessed with your life. You are the light of my world, and each day I can’t wait to pick you up from daycare, your small arms flapping in glee for me to pick you up.

I am also thankful for your incredible grandparents and the role they have in your life. You are a very fortunate little man.

I pray that you continue to grow in love, wisdom, health and peace, and that God will continue to give me the patience and stamina to keep up with you as continue to be on the move.